Monday, September 12, 2011

One Step Forward and Two Steps Back

...That is how this immigration process is feeling at the moment.  After 3 days of intense medical tests last week, the gastroentologist finally concluded that Eduardo's physical issues are not alchohol-related as we already knew.  The doctor was a very nice guy and even wrote Eduardo a long note to the psychiatrist explaining his condition and what the cause was.  His liver and kidney are no longer enlarged and he basically just needs to lose 20 lbs to get the extra fat away from his organs.  

We were so happy by that news and Eduardo went straight over the the psychiatrist's office with the note and medical records he had requested.  The doctor was not in and he explained everything to the secretary.  The secretary then called the psychiatrist and he said to have Eduardo call the next day and to get a note from the AA meetings he has been attending saying he has been going there every day.  

So he called the next day as instructed only to be told that his appointment is scheduled for October 25th and that's when he should go, despite the test results.  AND he has to continue to go to the AA meetings every single night.  Luckily my dear husband is actually finding some comfort in those meetings and it's helping to pass the days.  He tried to beg and plead with the psychiatrist, but he got transferred back to the secretary who then told him that it was a bad day to call because the doctor was in a really bad mood!  So this one guy's bad mood is basically screwing our lives?!  

Poor Eduardo was so devastated.  I have felt kind of numb to the news.  There have been times when I want to break down and cry, but I haven't allowed myself to quite yet.  There is so much anger and hurt and frustration that I can't even express any emotion about it.  Usually I am quite open and wanting to share our immigration experiences with anyone and everyone, but I just can't right now.  It's almost too much to bear to even think about.  

So we are now back to looking at November.  I had already called the embassy to reschedule his final appointment and being hopeful I scheduled it for September 28th.  Eduardo will still go and turn in all the documents that we have and explain what is going on with the medical so they don't start to question things.  Then in the end hopefully all we will need is the medical signed and he can get his visa.  I think my heart just might break in half if he is not here by Thanksgiving, so that is my prayer.  

Thank you to everyone who is supporting us through this time.  I'm doing what I can to keep Liliana feeling safe and secure without her papi.  I know she misses him dearly.  She even tells me all the time.  The thing she wants more than anything in the world is "to sit on papi's lap on the couch." :(

I know big things are awaiting us and each day new opportunities are opening up for me here.  I'm praying this is all for a bigger reason and that someday soon that reason will be revealed.  Until then, we welcome all prayers!!


rubireyes said...

I am so sorry this is happening to Kelsey and to your beautiful baby. I am praying that you will be carving your turkey with your hubby at your side.

Sarah A.T.J. said...

I'm so sorry:( What a terrible, frustrating ordeal:(

Adina said...

Sorry to hear about your ordeal... I know this has to be super stressful for you and Liliana. Thanks for your comment on my blog, I think we have a lot in common.

Kelsey said...

Thank you ladies! I appreciate it :)

Adina - I thought the same thing as I was reading through your blog :)

Anonymous said...

Kelsy, this really TICKS me off about this psychiatrist, because he is literally obstructing your case, and I know that the embassy forces pp to go to "specific" doctors, so I would like this psychiatrist to be officially EXPOSED. Are you interested in doing that? (Obviously, it would be AFTER your husband's case is totally resolved and he's safely in the U.S.). It would be a fine piece for radio UCA or radio Victoria to broadcast, even if his name is not mentioned - one could do a piece and mention 'everything but'. This inane obstructionist behavior should be publicized so they can feel the 'verguenza' of having their story broadcast for thousands of Salvadoran (and a few expat) ears to hear.

Kelsey said...

Gringa - I will talk to Eduardo about this and see if he is interested. I am for sure, but he's a lot more private about those kinds of things. (although I write about his whole life on here LOL). It is crazy how someone with any amount of authority can screw with a life like this!